I saw this on Twitter and asked if I could share as I thought this was worth passing along. It was compiled from both providers and clients over a period of time. Here’s the link to the original posting. https://twitter.com/AnOtterGuy/status/1109398159724371968
A Client’s Code of Conduct
To make it easier to read (&comment), I’ve broken this out into a thread. Feel free to comment -this list has grown over the years &has had additions from many clients & companions alike. So, to point 1 – Imagine your best friend is a sex worker…
1. Imagine that your very best friend is a sex worker – then imagine how you would like them to be treated. This is your starting point! If you can’t imagine treating someone with this level of dignity and respect, it’s probably time for some serious self-reflection.?
2. Sex work is work; this is their regular job. Their social media presence is not there purely for your ongoing enjoyment. Respect this & do the right thing if interacting; gift cards / gifts from their wish list are a nice thank you, but don’t forget that cash pays the bills
3. No dick pics – ever – In your feed, as a profile pic or in DM’s. Just don’t do it…Keep your dick to yourself unless requested.??
4. Never ever ask for a discount. If you cannot afford her rate, then either move on or start saving your pennies (there’s nothing wrong with either approach).
5. Read their website before you ask questions. If ready to book, but still have questions, compose a list, then re-read their FAQs one more time before sending. Ideally sent in a single email, not one question per email at a time & in a succinct format. Don’t be a time waster?
6. Follow their booking instructions to the letter – most will make it very clear what they expect – don’t fall short – provide all information required.
7. Always plan ahead – SWer’s have lives and are not sitting around 24/7 awaiting your call. Phoning / texting at am because you’re drunk and horny won’t get you very far.?
8. Some providers don’t like pet names (babe, baby, honey, etc.); until you have a rapport, just use their name – in many cases they’ve picked one that they really like!
9. Be prepared with references or other requested verification information. Remember, this is for their safety. And remember – a “follow” of the provider on Twitter doesn’t count as a reference!
10. Don’t ask for things not on offer – respect their boundaries, whether related to services provided (e.g. asking for unprotected acts) or related to minimum booking lengths…
11. Do be open & let them know what you like. The most dreaded client response is “whatever you like” ????Just a little communication can make for a great time
12. (I can’t believe I have to explain this?) “Stealthing”, which is the non-consensual removal of condom during sex is sexual assault – let’s not dance around this – it’s rape. Don’t do it, but also if you hear a mate talking about this, straighten them out.
13. On the subject of condoms, if it’s been a while, look up how to properly use a condom
14. Always offer a deposit even if not requested – expect (and offer) to pay a cancellation fee – potentially up to the full amount, if you need to cancel with little notice.
15. Always start your session with a shower & actually use the soap?! A clean client is a must.
16. For in calls, be on time. don’t be late, but don’t hang around their entrance for 30 minutes in advance creeping out the neighbors.
17. For outcalls at hotels, do be sure to include simple instructions for getting to the lifts.
18. If you’re running late communicate – let them know ASAP.
19. If you must cancel (life doesn’t always go to plan), inform them ASAP; it gives them the chance to arrange another booking
20. If the sex worker needs to cancel, accept it, even at short notice. Unplanned things happen. You can always reschedule.
21. If you had a great time, tell her or even better, tell her, and tip her. Do not expect this to turn into ongoing dialogue for free. Want more? Easy, all you need to do is to re-book!??
22. If you happen to encounter SWer’s in everyday life, just keep on walking – they have everyday lives as well – don’t cross that line between their professional and private lives.
23. If you are the type that likes writing reviews, always ask their permission first before creating and posting. Reviews should never be a detailed account of your meeting.
24. If you see multiple providers, don’t discuss the other providers, or what you do with them. It’s poor form and indicates you can’t be trusted.?
25. Be a responsible client and get regular sexual health screenings – sexual health is everyone’s responsibility – not just providers.
26. Be an advocate for sex workers – speak out against bullying, abuse and support charities & support groups like SWARM, Ugly Mugs, NSWP.
27. Support touring companions- ???-especially if you’ve said, “please come to my city”. Touring represents a large outlay & financial risk, so to avoid them cancelling, book early & get your deposit in! Otherwise you may not see amazing companions touring in the future.
28. Your time begins when you arrive (or were supposed to). Be time aware &leave on time, but if you stay late (esp. if you talked about “maybe” extending) then ALWAYS TIP. Even if it seems like she’s having fun, too. Even if you’re only chatting. Even if she goes aw, shucks, naw
29. Adding 4 clarity: Donation for session occurs either in advance or latest when you enter the room. Always check you have the donation before walking through the door -the “I left it in my car, I’ll run down at the end” is a scammer’s ploy. Follow the donation instructions!
30. Do let them know how you found them! Remember this is their business and they spend a lot of time and money on marketing- a little note on what info / website was helpful in making your decision can be very useful to them!
31. As a build on No 15 – Beyond the ??- Practice good oral health & use mouthwash at the start of session. And absolutely trim those fingernails – trim and filed smooth is the way to go!