BDSM 101: Understanding Property Markings; What’s Abusive And What’s Not

The other day a client had noticed the bruise on my right arm that had come from being bit. He had asked if someone got rough with me. He had also mentioned the fact that he didn’t like seeing the pics in my gallery that showed the bruises on my breast. I honestly couldn’t remember putting any of those pics in my gallery. And really, to me, the markings are something that I’m just used to having while being in a D/s or M/s relationship and don’t even think twice about. But for those that do not live in the BDSM world, you would then have no clue about what any of this means. So yes, of course, you would think these marks are abusive. But you need to know, that I’m a pain slut just as much as I am a cum slut. ? I would also like to point out, that this would be the difference between my personal life and my professional life as well. Even with me offering this as one of my services. My true submission and loyality will always be for the One in my personal life.

First, Id like to say, no, that any bruises or any other markings on my body is ALL consensual with the exception of my face now. But we’ll get to that in a minute. You also must know that if anyone was to even think about getting abusive with me. That you definitely wouldn’t have to worry about me as much. You may need to worry about the person that would be trying to hurt more so than me. lol And I’m sure that I wouldn’t need to say a word about it. That person would be going all over the place talking about just how crazy I really am! LMAO I don’t worry so much about myself just for that reason! ??? Secondly, I am a very extreme person. Especially to those that are more “vanilla” in their sex lives. But I have to admit, I’ve met Someone that’s way more exteme than I am. And that is probably is a good thing being that I really needed someone that was much stronger than I am, to handle me correctly. And can understand my need to have structure in my life.

The Meaning Behind Property Marking

But what is Property Marking? What does it mean? And Why? Let’s start with this first. Placing marks on a submissive represent a special meaning between a Dominant and a submissive. This is especially so when the two enter into a D/s or M/s relationship. This would be the first signs of a Dominant taking ownership of that submissive. Letting others know that she is off limits for any other Dominants. And is fully consensual, not at all considered to be abusive. Simply said, It’s marking territory.

Normally, the placing of the marks and the design of the marks would be something that is discussed between the Dom/me and sub. For the novice, this is especially important. Being that if a sub gets caught up with wanting to please her Dom by having whatever markings on her body without the sub having any input from the sub. This could impact the sub’s mental and emotional well-being. And can greatly affect the sub’s self-esteem and self-confidence.

Even if the submissive has given up her rights to make decision and choices, which changes her role into being a slave. A sub/slave still needs to feel as they are a person, so that the sub/slave doesn’t lose herself. A sub that comes to her Dom and asks if they could accept her Doms marking or asks to be marked, is so much more special than if the Dom just decides to place the marking. It’s something that belongs to both of them, not just to the Dom.

The Symbolism Of Property Marking And The Placements Of Markings

Property Marking is extremely symoblic, especially for the submissive. The meaning of her ownership is a constant reminder that ownership has been taken. This shows the sub’s choice to live as a slave to her Owner, for the whole world to see. It is always there acknowleding her choice to be a slave. Not only has it been etched in her mind but every time that she sees it, feels it, can take her hand and touch it, bringing it more into reality. A sudden overwhelming sense of pride takes over, knowing that she is owned! That feeling of pride, is an honor to a submissive to have. To know that overwhelming emotion that comes from being marked; I honestly can not express in words what I feel everytime I have a new marking, to see it, run my fingers over it and to feel it. It becomes to be a need for it, to know that she is HIS is just as important as the symbolism behind it.

The placement of markings and the meanings behind the placements is of great importance. Markings that are placed on the left side shows that you are Dom/me, Top, Master, Mistress, Owner, Daddy, etc. Markings that are placed on the right side shows that you are sub/slave, bottom/property, little, baby, etc.

Common Types Of Markings

There are many different ways that a sub/slave can be marked that symbolize that One has taking Ownership of a sub/slave as property. Generally, in the beginniing of a D/s, M/s relationship the sub having brusies from being flogged or whipped. Or in my case, having bite marks and considering I do bruise easy, the bruising from a bite mark. Welps that come from being flogged and/or whipped, or paddled is also very common. I’ve even presented my Former Master with a switch from a tree which some of you have seen a couple of pics that I have from that switch being used on my upper back. That it actually did give some open scratch marks on my back. My pain threshold normally goes way farther than what bruising usually shows. But being that I’ve only had one major scene in 2 1/2 years before yesterday with my One, my pain threshold is not what my normal standard generally is.

Typically speaking when the D/s or M/s relationship becomes more serious, normally when the sub goes from wearing a training collar to wearing a full slave collar the markings are more permanant as in a tattoo, a piercing, a cutting and even being branded. This permanant marking is sybmolizing the lifelong commitment that has been made between the Master/Mistress and submissive, more so as a slave at this point. But depending on the agreements the two have made in the relationship, can be sub or slave.

Property Markings and Safety Concerns

To express just how important it is to be knowledgable in BDSM and the body is one of the upmost importance! This is where “SSC” (Safe, Sane And Consenual) And “RACK” (Risk Aware Consenual Kink or Risk Accepted Consensual Kink), as well as, “PRICK” (Personal Responbility, Informed Consensual Kink) come in. During my 29 years of living the BDSM life, any time that I have mentored anyone, this is the very first thing that i will REQUIRE of who i’m mentoring is to READ AND STUDY! Not only do I require reading but to KNOW BY HEART and RECITE the RIGHTS and RESPONIBILITES of EACH ROLE, To KNOW AND RECITE the areas of the body that are considered to be safe and not safe, The different stages of bruising, the coloring in the stages of bruising, how to care for any markings properly, and so forth.

To add a little tidbit on bruising: A & D Ointment works great for bruises. And there’s also a creme that’s specifically for healing bruises that you can get that works just fine as well.

To jump in and just start playing and dabbling in BDSM is not only foolish and irresponible but can be the difference between life and death. And this is NOT to done or taken lightly nor is it adviseable for any novice whether Dominant or submissive to do, no matter how excited you may be or how much you want to just jump and play. DON’T! Simply put, you are responbile for your actions during this play time and is considered to be dangerous play. So READ, RESEARCH, STUDY AND LEARN BEFORE PLAYING ANY BDSM PLAY!

When Is Property Marking Considered To Be Abusive

At NO time in BDSM should any kind of Impact Play be admistered while in a fit of rage or anger!!!! NO TIME!!! THIS IS NEVER ACCEPTABLE IN BDSM AND IS CONSIDERED TO BE ABUSIVE! Disicpline or punishments should ONLY be admistered when cool and level-headed.

I know there’s errors on the site that I can not fix, If you click on the actual picture, to bring the picture up, you will be able to see the pics

(I kept these screenshots for this kind of blog specifically and actually I had started writing on this area of BDSM back when I had my first website. It’s very obvious i was a bit infuriated, shaken up and in cajun terms had the “red-ass” big time about this!! The attitude of “im going break you” in NOT ACCEPTABLE AND IS CONSIDERED ABUSIVE!!! THESE MARKS ON THIS PERSONS BODY, IS SICKENING AND UNREAL TO ME!!! The importance for a submissive male or female to be very knowledgeable on what is gonna take place on your bodies is something that i can not express!!! There are many many wanna be’s and predators out there that are passing themselves off as TRUE DOM’S! Learn the RED FLAGS AND SIGNS THAT WOULD BE CONSIDERED TO BE A PREDATOR!!! which, normally, I can spot a fake a mile or more away, comes from experience……i’ll be trying to write more on all of this as I go)

I kept this part of “placement” for this section. Safe areas that you will see property markings typically will be anywhere deemed safe on the body; breast, arms, upper and lower back, buttocks, thigh, leg and feet areas. What’s NOT deemed as safe areas would be the kidney and liver areas, the heart, the face or head areas. I have included a couple of links on safety areas and concerns to ensure knowledge of the more specific areas of where to avoid.

https://www.thedeviatenetwork.com/single-post/2016/05/10/BDSM-Basics-Impact-Play-Safe-Zones-and-Spanking-Tips

http://hellsc.com.au/safe-and-kinky.html

https://www.devianceanddesire.com/2014/12/bdsm-impact-play-safe-zones/

To Show The Difference In Abuse and Property Markings On My Body

For those that have expressed being upset over seeing Property Markings that come from a very healthy BDSM relationship. I would like to show you the differences that’s on my body. Needless to say, I don’t deal with this very well, it’s something that i’ve tried to show on numerous occasions and is something that is very hard for me to accept that I now have to look at and see daily. But i’m hoping that by showing you the differences in this blog that just maybe things might just “click” for you a little bit better.

(These were taken just for Him, you can clearly see this is a bitemark, and that I was very happy to have it and be showing Him how His marking looks. You can also clearly see how the bruising has started and what healing stage that the bruise is in, due to the colorization of the bruise.)

(Clearly you can see i’m not happy, this is very embarrassing to me now. This was brought on about ….i’d had really go back and count how many months ago this started, i believe back in feb or march…STRESS INDUCED…ABUSE. This is what work has done to me! this comes from taking in so much stress and swallowing it, trying to speak out and just getting abused more when i did! This comes from running in circles for time wasters for nothing, stressing for 3 months over an std that i didnt need to worry about, this is what the public feels to be beautiful. Clearly this actually sickens my stomach to have to look at this daily now for the rest of my life. The only thing that helps clear this up so far that ive found is vaseline and no stress on my body! This is the difference on MY BODY SPECIFICALLY. I took these at 10 PM tonight, 15 mins before i saw a client, you can see where i’ve tried to cover these red blotches up) Needless to say, if you are upset about me having Property Markings, you should be more upset over my face and why….

To End This Blog:

The link that I give to someone when I start Mentoring them is this one: http://bestslavetraining.com

This is the main one that I do give out among a few others. The importance of knowing what you are doing and/or having done to your body is the difference in life or death. Always play smart and safe!!! I’m hoping that this gives a little bit better understanding about BDSM, that it is something that is very special and meaningful. To also understand that BDSM is NOT for all, but then again it’s something that for those of us, that it’s for, it’s in the blood, and no matter how much anyone may want or try to deny it….IT STAYS IN THE BLOOD AND IS A NEED FOR US!

Stay Safe and Sane, in Consensual Kink Play and Have Fun!!!

Much Love and Licks

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